A friend recently mentioned how anxious she sometimes gets when she has to meet up with a whole bunch of women. Anxious about whether she’ll fit in, whether she’ll be suitably dressed, whether she’ll be accepted, whether she’ll be liked. And not because she is insecure about who she is, but because she is an individual, she is different because she is open, she is honest, she is a strong woman, who respects others choices but won’t make them her own. I so get my friend. What I don’t get often, is other women. Sadly, sometimes I just don’t trust women. I love my women friends, but I do have to say I don’t often love some women. Women are very often other women’s worst enemies. And I know it often stems from insecurities, a need to be better, be prettier, be wittier, be more popular. Often a fear that they won’t be accepted. That they aren’t good enough. And that by putting others down, they’ll feel better about themselves. Well they are good enough. We all are. But I truly do no longer have time, empathy yes, but time no, for those women who subtly (or not) via a look or a nasty comment disguised as not, or a smile that doesn’t quite reach the eyes, let their insecurity mask their human-ness. If there is such a word. My wish is that we can all live and let live, celebrate our differences and our strength and meet each other with warmth in our eyes. And our hearts. We are sisters, after all.
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one hundred and thirteen
one hundred and ten
I just loved today. I am grateful for the wonderful feeling I had all day, I’m not even sure how to describe it. Peaceful, maybe. Not the day, but the feeling. A day that started with a birthday breakfast next to the ocean and a new favourite song and ended with Nick and Nora’s Infinite Playlist with the two girls I love most in the world. I am so grateful to know I have all I need. And then some.
one hundred and two

Today was a bit tough. A combination of jet lag and a zoladex implant into my stomach had me feeling a little sorry for myself. I am grateful I never asked for a rain check on pizza’s and Chandon. And friendship and laughter. It was just what I needed.
ninety eight
22 April. I am grateful for laughter, for laughter so loud it’s almost madness. For memories of Mutt and Jeff and being called Linky. And for wonderfully irreverent colleagues who will forever remain friends. Friends who will travel over a mountain, catch up a lifetime in an hour, inspire you simply by who they are, share a bond in a minute, genuinely wish you happiness and contentment. And you them. Forever. I am so very grateful for the support, love, irritability, hot flushes and honesty we share. And for having a friend who wrote the most fabulous cookbook ever.
eighty one
seventy six
Today I am grateful for a career in advertising. Not for what I learnt or for what I wish I hadn’t learnt but for the wonderful friendships I made. Friendships that transcend time, life stages, careers and distance. Friendships that are as strong when we meet once every year as they were when we met every single day. Today I am grateful for being so blessed to have such varied, interesting, independent, kind, funny, irreverent women as my friends. Women who continue to astound me with all that they are. And more importantly, inspire me to be so much more.
sixty six
I am grateful that at this stage of my life I have been blessed to meet a lifetime friend. We are all supposed to count ourselves lucky if at the end of our lifetime we can consider ourselves to have had three true friends. True friends. Friends no matter what. Friends who last the distance. “One friend in a lifetime is much; two are many; three are hardly possible”. I know Arienne will be one of them. I love that we are so different yet so alike. She is so supremely private and it appears I am not. She is so much better than me at knowing when to say no to more. I love more. But the two things I value above all else in relationships, trust and respect, we have. We have pissed each other off in the past, and we will in the future, because thats just life. But we can talk about it and we can laugh about it. She celebrates my good times, and shares my bad times. She shares my life. As do I hers. I know there is nothing too much to ask of her. Or to share with her. And I know she knows that too. I love that I see her most days, yet we still can find something to debate and discuss. At length. And always over a cup of coffee. Or a glass of wine. Or more.
sixty
I love living above the best pizza place in town. I am grateful for ‘like homemade’ pizza’s, thin crispy bases overflowing with fresh basil or rocket. But my real grateful today is for the person I shared pizzas with tonight. The first person I met in Noosa. Properly met. The first person who really made me feel welcome. Tamara has been around in my new life for nearly four years. She was the first person I met who I could talk to and laugh with. Yes, Tam is from Zim and that did help when I first arrived, surrounded by difference, but it’s more than that. She is full of shit, she is controversial, she is affectionate, she is naughty, she is heaps of fun, she does not judge, she is different to me in many ways, she is like me in many ways. She just is. She really makes me laugh, and I know she would be there, no matter what and no matter when. And for that I am grateful.
fifty eight
Kate is in year 10 which means she has to go to Googa, an outdoor education centre. For a month. They camp, they hike, they cook over open fires, they wash, they clean, they do without any form of technology, they do everything for themselves. They learn about themselves, what they are capable of, what they can handle. They learn about their friends. And they learn to be grateful for what they have. We had the information evening tonight, and I watched Katie interact with her friends. I am very very grateful that Kate has made such lovely friends. So that she now feels excited at the prospect of the month away. When she first started here, we made a pact. I would do whatever I needed to to ensure she didn’t go. Even if it meant changing schools. To be honest 4 years seemed a lifetime away then. Today I am so grateful I don’t have to.







