i know i know

I have come so far and yet sometimes not at all. I realised this as Jem and I were chatting on the way home from school. We might have bought a house and Jem who has the biggest ears in the world and has heard us discussing finances, wanted to know how much we had offered. I used the opportunity to mention that it was not really necessary for her to know, or to discuss with anyone. And furthermore (you can hear the annoying mom tone can’t you and we wonder why they switch off) at her age there is no need to ask or discuss issues like how much her dad earns,  how much I used to earn, how much rent we pay ….  Yip, didn’t get past her. She smiled at me, you couldn’t resist mom could you. Shit, I am so bloody transparent. And damn, it does still bother me that they might not see me as the financial contributor I used to be. Damn that it still bothers me. They could care less. But I have got a lot better. I have. When filling in forms I refused to write housewife, or home executive or whatever. My stuff. So I used to write n/a. As in not applicable. Now I write mom. How far have I come.

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3 thoughts on “i know i know

  1. Susan Smith, Kerry Solomon and 2 others like this.

    Charmaine Devitt Am so with you on this one but I’m not where you are. Think I need more time:) xxx
    Yesterday at 5:40pm via mobile · like · 1

    Samantha Yates Schroeder Well done… I had Kennedy ask how much our house cost the other day.. She said her friend wants to know!!! I said that it was not polite to ask & she didn’t need to know… Omg!! Well done MOM.. X
    Yesterday at 7:28pm via mobile · like · 1

    Kerry Solomon Exciting about the house! Hope you get it!!!
    Yesterday at 9:36pm · like · 1

    Sandi Unite Tell us more about the house.
    22 hours ago via mobile · like · 1

    Jo Sutton What’s so wrong with being a Mum?
    7 hours ago via mobile · Like

    Lianne Cawood Jo, absolutely nothing, that is the point. It is both a blessing and an honour. But many people (and sadly mostly women, think less of you if you don’t have a job or earn or think you lack ambition (despite the reason or the choice etc). I used to measure myself by that yardstick and sometimes insecurely still do. Hence my post. My stuff.
    4 hours ago · Like

    Lianne Cawood Charmaine, I know you get exactly what I mean … my career meant so much to me too xx
    4 hours ago · Like

    Lianne Cawood Sandi , not much to tell … put in an offer on a house with a view, privacy, height, interesting, needs some work, but we love it!! You know the kind of house other people would go … what were they thinking, so … the perfect Bryan and Lianne house. Will keep you posted xxx
    4 hours ago · Like

    Jo Sutton Who cares what people think! Only you can allow someone to make you feel a certain way.
    4 hours ago via mobile · like ·

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