cynic

There is a lot of focus on breasts right now. Yes because of poor Kate Middleton but also because of the approaching plethora of pink month. I don’t mean to come across as cynical but I am a little. That’s why I love the scar project so much. Breast cancer is not pretty and pink. It’s not about what we share, its about what we don’t often share. It’s sore and ugly and about survival and beauty because of it. I went to a breast cancer fundraiser on friday and had a chat with a lovely woman who when discovering I had had a mastectomy queried why I hadn’t had a bilateral done and had two lovely matching boobs. Seriously. Pretty and pink it’s not. They are lovely to me because of what they represent, but not as she thinks. They have no feeling. They are scarred. They are not a choice. They are because we might have died if not. I asked her if she realised a mastectomy means removing everything. Nipple and all. I think I over shared before how my nipples and the sensation of them matter to me. She mentioned how yes, she understands, her friends boob job left her with no feeling too. No, sweetheart you don’t understand. I don’t mean to be mean but wearing a pink ribbon on your chest does not mean you understand. And I really hope you never do. It reminded me of a dear friend who in trying to make me feel better when I was still trying to make sense of my diagnosis, said, her husband had said something which made sense to her. He had said, well at least its just her boob, its not like its a limb that she needs. Again, seriously? Anyway cut Kate Middleton some slack. If I had her boobs, no matter who I was, I’d bear them for the world to see.

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6 thoughts on “cynic

  1. You nailed it! I sorta get tired of reading Love stories with the descriptive sex scenes… It’s hard to think of when mine have no feeling, are a bit lumpy not to mention the scars. I agree, if I had her boobs, I’d be proud. They need to leave her along… she wasn’t walking down the street. Love your honesty!

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    Samantha Yates Schroeder, Lisa Fourie, Theresa Milne and 3 others like this.

    Yvette Puchert You made me cry….again. It must be and have been very difficult and, as you said many times when you were running around trying to find oncologists etc. No one really knows what it is like until you’re actually the one dealing with it….Lots of kisses and hugs to you always…..
    21 hours ago · like · 2

    Lianne Cawood Hey gorgeous you Y … promise so not looking for sympathy … things at mo just sparked my ire at the interestingly common misconception that a mastectomy is just like a boob job!!! And whilst I support every pink ribbon initiative that exists and applaud and honour all those who get involved, they do such good when it comes to awareness and early detection and research and and, but its almost become over commercialised and trivialised as a result …. oh well. Y, so remember those days,good and bad, miss the earlier ones when I used to sit on your porch when we came to visit Sage and give you the next update!!!! Always and forever my friend xx
    19 hours ago · Like

    Sandi Unite Lots of Love to you ,Lianne. I send you a beautiful bubble of white light.XXX
    18 hours ago via mobile · like · 1

    Theresa Milne So well put Lianne. so interesting to be in the surgery prep ward with a couple of cosmetic boob op patients. Those with a medical necessity have a similar experience in reality, but the perception and the subsequent uphill battle to get ones life back on track, makes the experience so different to theirs. …And it is a very necessary limb, with a whole bunch of useful functions. It is not realistic to downplay the importance of having breasts x
    15 hours ago via mobile · like · 1

    Lisa Fourie Thank you Lianne ~ I’ll never moan about my aging (not so perky 20 something) boobies again. XX
    14 hours ago via mobile · like · 2

    Samantha Yates Schroeder You never know until you walk in someone’s shoes… I am grateful that they can do this procedure however & save lives.. I am grateful for all the lives they have saved… I am grateful that you are well & wear your battle scar so elegantly.. Xx
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