great expectations

I’m really starting to wonder if maybe it’s me. I seem to have fallen out with a friend, two estate agents, our conveyancing attorney, our immigration agent and our local bank manager. Most of them because they just don’t seem to do what they say they’re going to. Maybe it’s my tone? B suggested that whilst he absolutely agrees with the content of my oh so efficiently worded emails, he just wonders if maybe the quite short sentences which clearly signal my irritation, the clipped I would appreciate your response at your earliest convenience and my obvious exclusion of kind regards, is maybe not the way to go. He says it very gently because I know he can feel the menopausal embers just waiting for something to ignite them. Damn. Is it me? The thing is though, despite my slight, ahem, volatility I do struggle with people who don’t do what they say they’re going to do. Maybe my expectations are too high. But then really how can they be when I’m only expecting people to do what they say they’re going to do. And I know life intervenes and often despite our best intentions we can’t do the things we said we would.  But then I just wish people would own that. Would say that. And wouldn’t try to duck and dive. And make excuses. And lay blame. And if they do that I promise I’ll work on my tone. I will. Or am I maybe expecting too much again?

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    Angie Barnard-Engelke and Samantha Yates Schroeder like this.

    Samantha Yates Schroeder Good luck with that… We are just trying to get our Garden maintained.. Hhhmmmm maybe they will pitch tomorrow…. After already being 2 weeks late.. No phone call as yet…. Breeeaaaattrhhhhhhhhh….. X
    November 21 at 9:27pm via mobile · like · 1

    Janette Webb Keep Calm and Drink Wine !!!xxx
    November 21 at 9:28pm · like · 2

    Lianne Cawood haha you two … I’m drinking and breaaatthing!! It’s obviously working cos I’m smiling too xxx
    November 21 at 9:31pm · Like · 2

    Megan Clausen Don’t worry angel, it is happening to me too. I seem to be getting frustrated with everyone around me as things don’t get done, things break that were supposed to get fixed, things get done that were not supposed to be done, things need to be re-done, again. And again. And again. It is like walking through treacle at the moment. Maybe it’s to do with that damn eclipse and the retrograde Mercury but there sure seems to be some sort of breakdown. Maybe it’s just me. And you. And probably a million others just like us quietly gritting our teeth between not-so-politely phrased mails and smses. I’ve given up on verbal communication altogether because every time I open my mouth it’s like a stun grenade has gone off. Trying to keep calm and drink coffee xxx
    November 21 at 11:09pm · like · 1

    Heather McNeice I couldn’t agree more Lianne!
    November 22 at 5:29am · like · 1

    Susie Pitts Never underestimate the effectiveness of the velvet glove. No-one likes to be called an incompetent fool, even if they clearly are. If you cajole them into addressing your problem and give them the space to fix their mess, they probably will. It will probably drive you insane though, Lianne!
    November 22 at 5:44am via mobile · Like

    Lianne Cawood Ohhh Sus, I never ever ever would call anyone an incompetent fool. Ever. I always where a velvet glove. The first ten times or so. But … my frustration at them not doing what they say they’re going to will eventually come through in my clipped tone! And honestly, children might need cajoling, but adults? x
    November 22 at 6:23am · Like · 1

    Susie Pitts I’m not saying you would SAY it, but it could possibly have crossed your mind. Some adults are just bigger children :). Good luck my friend. x
    November 22 at 7:45am · like · 1

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