No-one said it was going to be easy. To be the mother of a teenager. And I am keeping it in perspective. I am.  But this was exactly what I didn’t want to happen. And exactly what I knew was going to happen.  And exactly what I told myself I had to step back from and let happen. My baby being hurt and let down by some little prick. I know she believed he was more than he was capable of being right now, but he should never have let her believe it. I do have compassion for this boy, because he is going through some serious stuff right now. Far too heavy for a boy of his age, let alone a girl of Kate’s age and sensitivity to be dealing with.  I think he gets this and wants to protect her from it but is incapable of treating her with the respect she deserves. Well, I hope he gets this. Or of understanding how much true compassion and empathy she has.  He couldn’t have wished to have a more perfect angel at his side right now, but he has no idea how broad and beautiful her wings are. He has no idea how to lean on her.  And nor does she know truly what she has. But I see it, fuck do I see it.  Maybe I should thank him for not forcing her to find out just yet. She gave him chance after chance after chance to be the man I think he is down deep inside.To be the person she saw he was, or is going to be. He made her happy, but he also made her sad. So very very sad. And for that I’d like to wring his neck. And mine and B’s, for knowing we were right to forbid it, but didn’t, because we knew it was her choice to make.

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    Samantha Yates Schroeder ‎; (. so hard for us parents…… but we went thru it & survived…
    February 13 at 2:01pm · Unlike · 1

    Lianne Cawood So true Sam, and so easy to write off as teenage drama … but my heart broke in two in the face of her pain … tough. But yip, she’ll survive. x
    February 13 at 2:07pm · Like

    Samantha Yates Schroeder I know how u feel… my boy got dumped by his first crush in year 6.. he was so sad but trying to hide it…. i wanted to scratch her eyes out… hahahhahaaa but i got back in my box & breeeaaatthhhed!!!! lucky she has such a great mom… x
    February 13 at 2:09pm · Like

    Samantha Yates Schroeder your daughter that is….
    February 13 at 2:10pm · Unlike · 1

    Lianne Cawood The thing is tho, I don’t remember it being this adult like when we were this age, (14 and 17), so emotionally invested … anyway, just reread my rant, not very dignified at all … but at least its honest.
    February 13 at 2:33pm · Like · 2

    Vanessa Gibson My heart breaks for her broken heart.
    February 13 at 3:55pm · Unlike · 1

    Susie Pitts It was that intense. These are the most intense relationships of all. You were right not to forbid it… you can only warn them and care for them when they come back. But the experiences they have to have for themselves.
    February 13 at 4:06pm · Unlike · 2

    Corrie Medhurst Chocolate, shopping, ice cream and lots of tragic love songs! Helpful at 14,18,25 even 40ish when life tries to teach us our hardest lessons. Xxxx
    February 13 at 6:21pm · Unlike · 2

    Ange Nixon and wine!!!!! but then its supposed to be a dry month….lol.
    February 13 at 7:03pm · Unlike · 1

    Yvette Puchert Oh Lianne, that is sooooo sad! For you, for Kate… Thinking of you both! ♥ ♥
    February 13 at 7:22pm · Unlike · 2
    Lianne Cawood ‎Corrie, it was all done today, just not the love songs yet!!! And Ange, who bloody knew feb was gonna be so challenging and Yvette , so horrid for her. You know Kate, internalises everything. xx
    February 13 at 8:23pm · Like · 1

    Ange Nixon Challenging, yes but a long month – there is 29 days this year!!!! haha
    February 13 at 9:17pm · Like

    Kerry Solomon I feel your and Kate’s pain. Yours, because I am a mother, and Kate’s because I once was a teenager that a boy made happy, and then sad, very very sad.
    February 13 at 10:37pm · Unlike · 1

    Lynn Loopuyt Barker Be strong KatieKates. Be strong mom! Wish we could just pop in and be a real shoulder to lean on!
    Thursday at 2:35am · Unlike · 1

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